A Game we all Play
Do you know there is one game that most people, if not all people, are good at? It’s a game where there are no winners and everyone actually loses in the end. This game has been around ever since human beings walked on this earth.
Can you think what that game is? Go on, give it a try. You may have even played that game. Give up? It’s called the Blame Game. This game was first invented by Adam and Eve. They learned this game when they gave in to temptation and disobeyed God.
God asked Adam, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?” (Genesis 3:11)
Instead of owning up, Adam shifted the blame to Eve. “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.” (Genesis 3:12)
So, God goes to Eve. And of course, Eve learned the blame game very quickly. “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” (Genesis 3:13)
And the serpent? Well, he had no legs to stand on. (Sorry, I couldn’t help that.)
Ever since Adam and Eve invented this blame game, it has spread throughout the ages and to every corner of the world. In fact, humanity has become the master of the blame game. Without even thinking about it we can blame others so that we end up looking good. I have to be honest. I have also played that game.
Growing up I was never good at the blame game. When I was a young kid, I often pushed the blame on my brother. Unfortunately, it never worked as everyone knew that my brother was the “angel” and I was the “devil”. Later on, when I was 13 or 14 years of age, the school I went to didn’t have the language classes my parents wanted me to take, so I had to go to another school for language lessons. I hated going to those language classes so I started cutting class. I would hang out with my friends at the video arcades playing pinball machines and space invaders. Once you start cutting classes, you start to enjoy the new-found freedom. I started cutting class after class, and in the end, I didn’t go to my language class for nearly 3 months. I thought because it was in another school, my school wouldn’t know. Was I wrong! I got called up to my principal’s office and was asked why I had not been attending language classes for a while. “My mum locked my books in her cupboard so I couldn’t attend classes, Sir.” As I was giving that answer, I remember thinking to myself it was such a dumb answer. And it was. The principal picked up the phone and called my home. I lost the blame game and ended up with a really sore bottom as well.
As I got older I became better in the blame game and could make my stories sound more believable. Then at the age of 16, I encountered Christ. He changed my life. But not only that, I learned the Christian version of the blame game through attending prayer meetings.
Oh God, I want to pray for workmate John. Lord, YOU know how much of a pain he is, how difficult he can be and how irritating he is. Lord You know how stubborn he can be and he just doesn’t help me at all at work even though I try to be patient with him. Lord YOU know how I try to help him but he does nothing to help me. Deal with him Lord. Change his heart and make him more like YOU. Help him to understand what I am saying and make him change his ways Lord. Thank you, Lord. Amen.
God had to show me quickly the Christian version of the blame game is just as bad as the Garden of Eden version. As I got to discover more and more who Jesus is, He showed me more and more the way to live. But more importantly, He taught me how I need to be honest with myself, with God and with others. Jesus, instead of blaming others for what was wrong, took the blame on Himself. He was the Lamb of God who took away the sins of the world (John 1:29). He became the scapegoat for everything that was wrong with the world (Leviticus 16: 10).
So instead of blaming others, I can come to Jesus and acknowledge my sin to Him. He is willing to be my sacrificial lamb, my scapegoat. He frees me from the weight of the pride, guilt, or fear that causes me to blame others. I do not need to rationalise or blame others for the mistakes, or wrong decisions I have made, because God knows the truth anyway. If I try to cover or hide my sins by blaming others, or pretending that I am innocent, the Bible says I will not prosper. But if I acknowledge, confess and forsake my faults and mistakes, I will find mercy (Proverbs 28:13). I have learnt it is better to be honest and own up when I make a mistake or have done something wrong. It is then I can find forgiveness and mercy from God and from others.
What do you think?